As a child, I was afraid that they could rape me: I saw such a scene in the film. A few years later, when my friend and I returned from school, a man approached us and exposed Genilia. When I was 22, I encountered a pervert in the tram. Since then, obsessive thoughts have appeared that all men were rapids, it became scary for mothers, children. I have never been subjected to violence, I have a great relationship with my father, I have a beloved man, but obsessive thoughts prevent me from living. I’m afraid that my close men can turn out to be rapists. I am very impressionable, and I am ashamed for such thoughts. Is it possible to somehow get rid of this and live without fear?
Each person has personal space: body and soul. No one has the right to violate these boundaries without our permission. Invasion of our territory – always injury. It can be physical, emotional or both at the same time. Such an injury undermines our basic confidence in the world. The world becomes unsafe.
Being an impressionable person and also quickly reacting to the visual series, you, Julia, initially took on this injury, which in reality was not. This happens with emotional children: they can come up with an event or see in a movie and live like what happened. These are the features of the children’s psyche of a certain age.
Further, the focus of your attention focused on this children’s experience, and you began to react more to everything that fell into the field of this injury. This increased the experience even more. These “games” of the psyche provoked your fears.
The fear that you can become a victim has become your companion. In such a situation, men around you become potentially unsafe. The longer we remain “in the field” of fear, the stronger he connects us hands and feet. To
get out of this space, you need to look in the face.
In such a situation, art therapy works well: from the interior we splash fears outside. You can try to do it yourself or contact a psychotherapist.
There are a number of methods and techniques that are effective when working with injuries and fears of varying severity. In addition, each of us has our own channels or resources that we use to overcome difficulties in communicating with the world. Realizing what resources you have, and having worked for children’s injury, you will regain a sense of safety and trust in the world.